I went to a wedding last Thursday up in Monsey and during the meal, a Rabbi got up to speak. His speech was about why a bride wears a veil at a wedding. His main point was that Jews, unlike non-Jews, don't have relationships before they are married, meaning that the man and woman don't think of themselves as a unit until the end of the חופה. Therefore, she wears a veil to show that they are separated until the ceremony ends. With all due respect, you could ask yourself why a woman covers her face and not a man, and while one could provide many answers, like the woman being in a veil is a sign of modesty, it is clear that wearing a veil is another remnant from the ancient world. At most weddings in most cultures, there is some sort of veiling process. In Judaism, we make it into a whole ceremony, which we call the בדקין.
Furthermore, what struck me as really interesting was when the rabbi tried to say that a veil was a Jewish specific thing. Even if you were to ignore other historical accounts and focus yourself specifically on the biblical accounts of marriage, it is pretty clear that a veil is not a "Jewish" thing. In fact, the first description of a marriage, between Jacob and Rachel (which really became Jacob and Leah), one could say the switch occurred as a result of Jacob not seeing his bride's face before the ceremony, thus allowing Laban to pull the switch.
Furthermore, what struck me as really interesting was when the rabbi tried to say that a veil was a Jewish specific thing. Even if you were to ignore other historical accounts and focus yourself specifically on the biblical accounts of marriage, it is pretty clear that a veil is not a "Jewish" thing. In fact, the first description of a marriage, between Jacob and Rachel (which really became Jacob and Leah), one could say the switch occurred as a result of Jacob not seeing his bride's face before the ceremony, thus allowing Laban to pull the switch.
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